Consciously Cutting Cords

“Three things cannot be long hidden; the sun, the moon, and the truth.”

A Quiet Angel

-Buddha

Cutting the cord connecting two people; whether a newborn gasping for its first solo breath, or partners drowning in a sea of pain; gives birth to freedom, life, and hope in a world insane. According to the timeless traditions of Hawaiian shamanism, all people, places, and things are interconnected by energy strands referred to as “aka” threads. Imagine a three dimensional spider web, with you in the center, comprised of an infinite number of energy strands extending outward from just below your breastbone to everything in the universe. Visualize these threads in different thicknesses, lie the various gauges of copper wire needed to carry more or less current across greater or lesser distances. Now consider that, the stronger the bond, the thicker the thread (the closer we are to someone or something, the greater are the amounts of energy and information flowing between us and them). “Mother’s intuition” is an example of this phenomenon. When a mother and child are close, a mother can often sense, over great distances, that her child is in danger. Sometimes she can even sense the exact type of danger and visualize the scene. So when we are connected to someone in intimacy, there is usually a strong bond, with a high voltage “wire” carrying a large amount of energy and information back and forth between us. Physical distance makes no difference. Psychological, emotional, and spiritual closeness determine its size and strength.

Intimate Partners

So, with the mother’s intuition example in mind, let’s take a look at the interchange of thought and emotion between intimate partners. Since each of us is so uniquely different, possesses varying levels of conscious awareness, and is more or less sensitive to the subtle energies and influences flowing in and around us; our experiences of this phenomenon may vary widely, or may seem non-existent. But, whether we are consciously aware of it or not, this energy exchange is occurring between us and our partner, so it is helpful to understand what it is, how it works, and what we can do to modify it if we want to. When couples have spent years sharing day-to-day life experiences, they really do, to some degree, become as one flesh, one mind, and one emotion. Thoughts and feelings flow freely across the energy strands connecting them, to the point that they often cannot clearly determine which is their own emotion and which is their partner’s. When things are healthy and functional, when love and happiness are shared, when truth and light create the moments, this, like sweet sex, brings bliss to bear. However, if someone in the relationship is emotionally unstable, mentally ill, neurologically impaired, or selfishly inclined; or if the relationship falls apart with hearts intwined; knowing how to cut the cord may free your mind.

My friend Heather recently shared a post with me, written by Madisyn Taylor, that beautifully illuminates this phenomenon. Although from a slightly different healing genre, it seems to fit right in. She says “Sometimes the emotions we are feeling belong to the person we are in a connection with and an energetic cord must be severed.” This does not mean the relationship, or its love, is severed; but rather that we may need to protect ourselves from the harmful emotions of another by unplugging that big “wire” that interconnects us energetically. If we do so, then we will still be connected by the simple strands that connect us with all things in the universe; but that high voltage “wire” that made us vulnerable to the thoughts and feelings of another would be unplugged, at least for a while. If the connection is serving a higher purpose, whether we are aware of it or not, then we may not be able to sever it. When sharing so much with someone, and when this sharing becomes destructive, and when we cannot even know what is ours or someone else’s; it may be time to cut the cord to heal and grow.

Madisyn goes on to say “Finding and cutting unwanted cords is a simple, gentle process that is best done alone and when you are relaxed. It is important that you are strong in your intention to release the chord between you and someone else. To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centering meditation. When you are ready, visualize or sense the chords that are connecting you to other people. Run your fingers through the cords to separate them until you find the cord you wish to sever. There is no need to worry, because the chord you need to sever will feel just right. When you have found it, determine where the cut should be made and then visualize the cord being cleanly cut. If you need assistance, Archangel Michael can be called upon to help you with his sword. Afterwards, if you feel that cutting the chord has left spaces in your energy field, then visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.”

Higher Vibration

When we have reached a high enough vibration, we will be able to peacefully and easily distinguish between our own thoughts and emotions, and those of another. At this level of consciousness, we may not need to cut the cord, as our interpretation and experience of the thoughts and emotions of the other will be determined by the love, joy, and peace of higher consciousness; and ultimately truth. At this level, our higher consciousness may be serving a higher purpose, and maintaining the connection may further its cause (e.g. it may encourage the healing of another). However, if we have attained such a level, but find ourselves plummeting downward into the fear, sadness, or doubt of lower vibrations; then we may want to unplug for a while until we regain our higher view.

Highly Sensitive People

Highly sensitive people may experience this with any other person they interact with — losing sight of their own individuality and, like a chameleon, taking on the emotions, attitudes, and thoughts of those around them; without realizing that this is occurring. They may become extremely confused when they constantly change their mind about things, experience ambivalence, and emerge from a situation with an entirely different perceptual reality. If they are highly sensitive and neurologically unique, then their entire reality may be situational (determined by whatever situation they are in), and they may have no way of knowing what is real and what is not — no way to find their way home. Such unique and sensitive souls often need the support of others — people they can really trust — to continuously help them find and know the truth. For them, establishing clear boundaries, creating an environment of acceptance, stability, and safety; and cutting cords that form, and form again; is needed to heal and grow, and then ascend.

Light

One subtle thing I like about the opening quote is that all three sources of that which “cannot be long hidden” are things that emanate or reflect forms of light (the sun, the moon, and the truth). They hold natural beauty, and also reveal things, or are themselves a revelation. They bring cosmic power and wisdom into the material world. They promote healing and growth. They shine the conscious infinite light of creation — directly or indirectly. Their vibrations are transformative. Of them, truth holds the highest vibration. So if we cut a cord, let it be revealed to us by the sacred light of truth.

Photo credit: Dave Herholz