Since science, through her luminous offerings, has graciously erected for us a pillar of knowledge revealing that gourmet sex and meditation are the same to the brain, it should come as no surprise that the sweetness of our sensuality, particularly that erotic crescendo up to, and indescribably blissful explosion into orgasm when shared with a safe, beloved companion; possesses mental, physical, and spiritual healing properties. According to decades of scientific research, and millenia of spiritual practice, meditation is the single most effective method for transforming physical illness, transcending negative emotions, and inspiring elevation to higher consciousness. Most forms of such speculative contemplation slow the body down, informing the brain that we are safe and well. This either shifts us into Safe Mode, or keeps us there; where we have access to the broadest range of thought, perceived possibilities, and courses of action; and where our body is free to run its repair and maintenance systems. Since coital collaborations create the same effects as meditation, plunging passionately into mesmerizing motion may hands down be the finest healing method available in our metaphoric material world repertoire. So let’s make ourselves healthier, happier, and more evolved through those resplendent, rhapsodic rhythms of rapturous romance.
Sex is an energy source that boosts our physical vitality, emotional stability, mental clarity, and spiritual well-being. Like superfoods, yoga, and meditation; sensuality is a primary element in a healthy, happy lifestyle. Regular love making keeps the body in better balance. That euphoric ascension to orgasm pumps dopamine, our body’s natural heroin-high, into our neural pathways, producing motivation, stamina, and personal power. When we erupt into the dreamy delectation of orgasm, its pulsating pleasure pumps us full of oxytocin, increasing social effectiveness and decreasing cortisol levels (cortisol causes stress). Higher pheromone levels are sexy souvenirs from sweet coition. And ladies, hold tight to your lipstick, because semen has now been proven to be a mood elevator. So whip up a concupiscent cocktail and plant a sweeter, broader smile upon your love. Regular sex will blissfully support the healing process, and the higher road to happiness; two steps within our upward flight to freedom. Neither meditation nor sex alone are sufficient to generate healing or growth. They create the conditions that encourage such fulfillment.
Hypertension is believed to be the underlying cause of most forms of mental and physical illness. So when the crippling burden of stress is weighing you down, add a little whimsy to your wardrobe. Smile amorously at your honey, slip into a sexy negligee or costume (both of you), and dive into your sweet and sultry sex. Doing so will not only feel delicious, but it, like meditation, will prove to your shades of gray matter that you are snug as a bug in a rug (you would not be willingly making love if you were under threat). Sexual intimacy helps shift the brain out of Survival Mode (stress response) into Safe Mode (relaxation response); which inspires conditions of healing, happiness, and higher consciousness.
Since sex without love is like dancing without music, let’s muse upon the ardor of our mellifluous allure. The quality of our love connection; how emotionally close, trusting, and safe we feel; is a prerequisite of our fantasy fulfillment. We can sweeten the seduction by going deeper into the heart of our beloved. For those of you riveted to random pussy cats or joy sticks, bulging breasts or biceps, or the passing rush of back door booty calls; why not ditch the take out and become a bon vivant of salubrious, sultry sex. Try blinder sex, to savor that sparkly chemistry with your honey muffin that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can spend all day making love and eating truffles, and caress their steamy assets when passing by. If your relationship lacks connection, try these couples yoga poses to draw your bodies closer. Want to improve sex naturally? Here are some herbal enhancements to rev up your rhythms. Do you or your beloved crave heady foreplay, but feel uncertain, shy, or anxious when going down? Learn the art of mindful oral sex to please your partner, or be tantalized today. Recent research suggests that the one thing women need for better sex is more sleep. For men, the key is more exercise.
Gourmet sex as a healing remedy is recommended for adults in committed, loving relationships (like marriage). It is contraindicated for the casual tongue and cheek connections; and considered harmful for children and adolescents. Please understand that my intention is to highlight the science-based healing benefits of sexual intimacy within the sweet sacredness of adult committed relationships, where I believe that love making and its assets should have no limits. When occurring in this context, sex will improve our physical, mental, and spiritual health through its blissful, bonding benefits. It can bolster our immune system, generate vitality, and paint us with that warm angelic glow. It can help us ditch the daunting doldrums of depression, anxiety and other negative emotions; injecting happiness into the smiles that swell and grow. So let’s SHINE with the light of love while letting go. It will help us heal and elevate our flow.
What, for you, have been the benefits of sexual healing? How could you incorporate this knowledge into your own life? What are the potential pitfalls you foresee from sexual healing? What has helped you distinguish between the take-out sex used to satisfy insecurity, economic needs, addiction, or narcissism; and gourmet sex within a committed loving relationship?
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