While working with couples; in addition to problems related to money, grump dumping, poor prioritizing, and crappy communication; my office has echoed with the angst of women and men experiencing an unfulfilling sex life. This has led to boredom, dissatisfaction, resentment, pornography, or infidelity. Re-igniting that sensual spark can not only bring you closer, but can improve your health and happiness. This post is intended for wives and husbands sharing committed relationships. It contains adult nourishment, and should not be ingested by children.
Emerging trends reveal that everyone could benefit from having more gourmet sex. Sex is an energy source that boosts our physical vitality, emotional stability, mental clarity, and spiritual well-being. Like superfoods, yoga, and meditation; frequent sex is a requisite element in a healthy, happy lifestyle. Regular love making keeps the body in better balance. That erotic ascension to orgasm pumps dopamine, our body’s natural heroin-high, into our neural pathways, producing motivation, stamina, and personal power. When we erupt into orgasm, its pulsating ecstasy floods us with oxytocin, increasing social effectiveness and decreasing cortisol levels (cortisol causes stress). Higher pheromone levels are sexy souvenirs from our rapturous reverberations.
Spice It Up
When considering stoking up the erogenous, epicurean fires with wild, exotic sex, playful costumes, or teasing toys; the first thought of many is “I am too tired!” or “I don’t have enough time because of the kids and my work.” or “I am too old for that! Isn’t that kinky stuff for college students and newlyweds?” The good news is that we can always reserve the time and energy to make passionate love with our honey, and it is well worth doing. We are never too old. As long as our heart is pumping, and there are no medical contraindications; gourmet sex will contribute to our health, happiness, and longevity. It is time to dispel these myths, and jump back into a rapturously penetrating sex life.
Sexy Sweetheart Gifts
Some people think of sexy lingerie, costumes, and toys as kinky, dirty, or pornographic, but when used within the context of a commited relationship, they are just plain fun! Why are so many people drawn to porn? I believe it is, in part, because they find steamy, playful sex captivating, blissful, and exotic; and because they are not getting this in their relationship. Within a marriage, sharing such seductive, slinky sex can be an inexpensive, mesmerizing way for couples to grow closer, feel happier, and live longer. If you are doing it in your marriage, then you will be less likely to do it elsewhere. Since, when giving a sexy gift, our bodies are the primary present being offered; we do not need to spend a lot of cash. We can be creative, making use of our existing assets. 😉 Here are some sexy holiday gift ideas, starting with a romantic evening at home with your honey.
Imagine that you and your sweetheart are at home alone, light some candles, turn on Ciara, and take a shower together. Now erotically rub lotions or oils on each other after the shower. It can be something simple, like coconut oil. If you put a little too much in an area you are hungry for, then lick it off. Take your time, and relish the ecstasy of the foreplay. Unless you have a drinking problem, start sipping on some wine, or maybe a marguerita. Then slowly put on your costumes, teasing each other flirtatiously along the way. Maybe she is a cowgirl and he a cowboy. Then go out in your living room, or a place with a couch, and start dancing. If you happen to have some rose petals lying around, then toss them across your bed before doing the dance. While dancing, start taking it off, or let your partner do it. If you like handcuffs, straps, or hot wax; then whip up a tasty concoction. Let your hot bodies, amorous moves, and wild imaginations take it from here. Just let go, relax, and enjoy the sensual pleasure with your par amore. Set aside at least three or four hours for this evening of steamy ecstasy. Take some photos, or a video, to look back and smile (or do it again). Now this evening of ardor is relatively inexpensive and could be a sweet and memorable holiday gift to share. You probably have most of this stuff already, and the rest you could either make or pick up without busting your budget (consider the accompanying photo for a home made costume idea). Other sexy gift ideas might include lingerie, costumes, or toys you think she or he would enjoy. Remember, this is your lifetime partner, the one person it is appropriate to do anything with. So let loose together, have some sweet, sexy fun; and keep the spark alive in your relationship.
Have you ever incorporated these things in your marriage? If so, how did it work? What other ideas do you have?
Photo Credit: Carol