Personal responsibility is a foundational step in the dance of higher consciousness and love. Here are some things I have found useful in its attainment.
1. Understand and accept yourself: Who are you and what do you need?
2. Prioritize: Put first things first in your life.
3. Be honest with yourself: Truth is the basis of responsibility.
4. Ditch the drama: Balance brings stability.
5. Manage your anxiety: Calmness fosters clarity.
Understand and Accept Yourself: Contrary to popular myth and legend, there is no such thing as “normal.” We are all as uniquely different as the raindrops, the stars and planets, and vibrations bringing whispers from eternity. Trying to be like something or someone means you are not being yourself. Discover who this is, accept her unconditionally, and care for her based on what she really needs. Whether a solid rock, delicate flower, or a feather floating freely on the wind; or a variable blend; whether one and then another, don’t pretend; let yourself be who you are, do not defend. If you need more sleep, take a nap. If your body craves carbs, eat some. If you want a glass of wine, drink it. If you like good sex a lot, enjoy it. If you need a lot of structure, then create it. If others are different, and judge you for being you; then just don’t buy their shit, this is them and what they do. If they love you, they will accept, cherish, and respect you as you are. If you have special needs, they will relish the opportunities to help you meet them. If they attack you for your weakness, then they do not love you, and are using you to make themselves feel better at your expense.
Prioritize: Some things really matter in our lives, and some don’t. To live a healthy, balanced life, grow spiritually, and attain our goals; we must invest our time and energy where it counts. Create a pie chart with 5-10 pieces; label each piece based on the main parts of your life (e.g. Relationship, Spirituality, Work, Exercise, Hobbies, Social, Extended Family); balance your time based on the level of importance of each item, monitor the chart daily, make adjustments as needed, and walk within the substance of your dreams.
Be Honest with Yourself: Truth is the foundation of all good things. Face it, however painful; deal with it, however difficult; and elevate your consciousness to light. We cannot take responsibility for something if we are not admitting the truth of what it is. We cannot love without being responsible. Make truth your breath of life, for it inspires your soul as lungs require the air.
4. Ditch the Drama: Drama is an exaggeration, distortion, or mis-interpretation of the truth. In a movie, song, or play it can add some verve and flair to spice up the mix; but in real life it is destructive, misleading, and destabilizing. Save it for your entertainment. Foster balance, truth, and reason in all things.
Manage Your Anxiety: Anxiety distorts our thinking, impairs our judgment, and lowers the vibration of our lives. Such negative emotions shift the brain into survival mode, causing us to believe we are under threat when we are not. Our range of thought, perceived possibilities, and courses of action are narrowed to those of self preservation. When anxious, everything seems more dangerous, threatening, or scary than it is. Because of this, we often misunderstand others, make irrational decisions, and run away from what we really need. When experiencing anxiety, do not make major life-changing decisions. Wait until you are calm and clear, and then think it over again. By this time, you will again have access to your full range of thought. Deep breathing, meditation, thought stopping, thought replacement, yoga, exercise, going for a walk, earthing, eating a comforting snack, or talking to a safe, supportive other can help decrease your anxiety and clear your troubled mind.
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