There will probably be times in our life when our spirit is prompting us to move on with our growth process, but we don’t realize it because we are focusing on our mind’s interpretation of our situations, rather than allowing our spirit to guide us. Certain human factors frequently distract us from establishing a conscious awareness of spirit. These often include the mind, the senses, and our life circumstances; especially as related to conditioned beliefs, perceived obligations, and relationships. Stress and issue triggers will limit our conscious awareness to matters of survival. Conditioned beliefs, based on our interpretation of our life experiences, will limit our thoughts and perceived possibilities to those established by these beliefs. Our senses will focus us on indulgences, biases, or egoic preoccupations that keep us trapped in our mind (because of the mind’s interpretations of the sensory information, and the actions that are generated by these interpretations). Based on past relationships, we may have certain beliefs about relationships, or intimate partners, that trap us in a particular mindset. If we are in a relationship that we know is unhealthy, we may, because of perceived obligations, decide to stay in it. We may also have developed a belief that all intimate partner relationships will prevent us from finding ourselves, because unhealthy ones have done this in the past; without realizing that a healthy relationship will actually encourage this process (and could even be what makes it possible).
There may be a part of us that is gently nudging us to move along to a higher, healthier place; but we may not recognize it because of the human factors mentioned above. When we notice it, it would benefit us, as well as the greater good, to accept and act upon it. If we find it difficult to move on, then we need to realize that, just as some people in our lives are temporary, we may be temporary in the lives of others as well, and our existing beliefs may be equally as temporary. And, although some conditions in our lives will remain consistently favorable, serving the greater good; some will not, and will need to be left behind for us to grow (including beliefs, people, and situations). To grow, we must allow ourselves to remove the barriers between our life and our spirit. When we do this, and connect our life with our spirit, we will find a new sense of harmony, and will feel the power and bliss of the universe flowing through us. Sometimes this happens most effectively through the vulnerability established between two people in the context of a healthy, open-hearted love relationship. And such relationships are more likely to endure; while both partners encourage each others’ growth through the higher love they share.
The Inevitability of Seeking and Sharing Love
Whether we are officially in a romantic relationship or not, we are always seeking and sharing these elements with others. If we are not (in a romantic relationship), then we will be exchanging them, in some form, through other types of social contact. When we think we are taking a break from love, we are probably just not in a formal relationship. But we are always seeking and sharing this energy, and these elements, at some level, from all parts of who we are (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual). From our biological drive to procreate to our spiritual need for open-hearted love, we are seeking and sharing these things (whether we realize it or not). So we might as well make them conscious, right?! We might as well acknowledge the truth of what is happening, so we can make our choices consciously, rather than allowing them to randomly occur in ways that may not be healthy for us, or others; or may not serve the greater good.
Finding Ourselves and Where We Belong
To find ourselves we must remove the barriers between our life and our spirit. We are this spirit. To discover where we belong, we must remain in spirit. We belong in spirit, and with those people and things that flow naturally from it. This is our real family. This is our true home. And, when both people in a relationship share it from the heart-centered love of spirit, this is the ultimate human experience of love and belonging.
Connecting Our Life With Our Spirit
In order to connect our life with our spirit, it is helpful to understand what the current barriers are. If they are based on stress and issue triggers then it could prove useful to focus on stress reduction and overcoming the issue triggers in order to move from Survival to Safe Mode (and to move beyond the First Chakra energy). If the obstacles are being created by mind-based preoccupations with conditioned beliefs, perceived obligations, human sense-related hangups, or relationships; then it may help to begin working with a spiritual teacher or growth coach, joining a yoga therapy group, or starting a daily meditation practice (to move beyond the Third Chakra energy into the world of spirit, and heart-centered love).
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