As life happens, we sometimes lose sight of who we are. This could be because we have stepped a little too far into someone else’s world, and gotten lost in it. It could also be the result of distorted perceptions, laziness, or stress-induced changes that we have not yet figured out how to rectify or resolve. Whatever the case, we can find ourselves again. Doing so will help us live from the true nature of our spirit, fulfill our highest purpose, and live in real love. It may require courage that we didn’t know we had, but it is there waiting to be called upon, and we can do it! What could be more important than being who we really are? And what is the alternative, living a lie? What would this accomplish, for us, and for those we are blessed to encourage (like kids)?
Sometimes, for a variety of reasons, we may step into someone else’s world, and allow ourselves to get lost in it, as if it is our own. We might do this to avoid facing our fears of the unknown, of failure, of losing control, or of abandonment. We might not have a clue who we are, and find it easier to latch on to the identity of another. We might not even have considered it, and have just been going with the flow for as long as we can remember. And, if we are avoiding being who we really are, we may not even know that we are doing it, or the reason why.
When we have distorted perceptions of ourselves and the world, deriving from our childhood experiences, trauma, or loss; we may have a hard time finding our way out of their clutches to access the broader universe beyond them. Such distortions are often the result of mental or emotional states, like depression or anxiety; or unresolved personal issues. Such personal issues might include things like fears of failure, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of unfairness, fears of losing control, feelings of being controlled, an inability to really trust ourselves or others, or fears of abandonment or rejection. The distortions created by such conditions limit our perceptions to those that align with these distorted beliefs, and the defenses that support them. So our beliefs about who we are can be pretty inaccurate, and keep us from taking the risks we need to take in order to discover and develop our true nature.
Sometimes we are just too lazy to do much of anything related to personal growth or spiritual development, and are seemingly content to just mindlessly cruise through life without putting any effort into finding out who we really are and fulfilling our true purpose. This is always a choice of ours, but will probably not be very fulfilling. And we would probably not live as long or be as healthy in the process. Each to their respective own, but I would not recommend this one!
When we make changes while under the influence of the stress response (Survival Mode), they will move us further away from who we really are, rather than closer to it; and will create the illusion that our lives are more unsafe or unstable than they actually are. If we make changes while in this condition, and then fail to rectify them after returning to a more relaxed state (Safe Mode), we will be investing in lowering our vibration, and moving further away from who we are (our true nature). Safe Mode is the starting point for the self awareness needed to discover our true nature (spirit), and moving from Safe Mode to Spiritual Mode will help us develop it further. Overcoming stress and issue triggers is a prerequisite to being our authentic selves.
Getting Ourselves Back
We can usually figure out whether or not we are living our lives in accordance with our true nature (spirit). One simple way to do this is to evaluate the degree to which our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs are being met. If we study the Chakratic Hierarchy of Needs, identify the degree to which your needs are being met across these four parts of self (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) by determining whether we have any of the corresponding symptoms, and if we do this across all seven chakras; then we will have a pretty good idea of whether or not we are living based on our true nature. If you have symptoms in any of these four areas across any of the seven chakras, then there is a good chance you are not being yourself. If you have symptoms, then they would point to the ways you are not living in spirit (true nature), and the information contained within this hierarchy article, would show you what you need to do to get yourself back. You could also consult an alternative healer for further guidance.
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