Throughout our lives we are continuously participating in written, verbal, and implied agreements within ourselves, and with others; and, at times, they may seem in conflict with each other. Our perceptions of them are determined by our current state, so may vary based on these conditions. Three general conditions determine the level of awareness from which we perceive everything, including the commitments and promises we make, and the ways we administer them at any given moment. These include Spiritual Mode, Safe Mode, and Survival Mode. When in Spiritual Mode we have the highest vantage point and broadest perspective, deriving from our direct connection with the truth of universal consciousness. Here our perceptions vibrate at the highest possible frequency, and reflect the highest truth. Safe Mode brings us the highest perspective the material world mind can offer, as it frees the mind to consider the full range of thought, possibilities, and courses of action available within the material world view. We are in this mode when we are not experiencing stress or other negative emotionss, but have not yet returned to the clarity of our spiritual awareness. This state does not incorporate the spiritual perspective, but is a prerequisite to it. Survival Mode is the most limiting of the three, and occurs when we are experiencing negative emotions, such as stress, guilt, anger, or fear. When in this state, the only things our brain allows us to consider are those related to fighting against or running away from something. So, when in Survival Mode we will either actively or passively, directly or indirectly, become agressive, defensive, or argumentative; or want to withdraw, avoid, or try to remove whatever we believe is causing the problem (fight or flight). While in this state, our brains literally force us to identify a threat, even though there is usually not one, so we can fight against it or run away from it. This is because our brains believe we need to do this to survive (until we are able to move out of this state). Perceptions generated in Survival Mode are especially challenging in relationships, as they frequently cause us to distort what we believe to be true about someone, and then either want to physically or verbally attack them, or physically or emotionally run away from them, often damaging or even ending the relationship in the process.
Honoring All Commitments
If we have made commitments with people we love or care about, regardless of the status of our relationships; and if we sometimes find it difficult to manage what seem like conflicting priorities; then we will benefit more from learning how to balance these various commitments than we would from denying or avoiding them when we become uncomfortable (e.g. when in Survival Mode). If we know someone is important to us and our lives, especially if it is in a spiritual way; and if we have made short term or lifetime commitments, promises, and agreements with them; then we, and all others in our lives, will benefit more from our following through with them than by us not doing so; regardless of how it may seem in our current state (e.g. survival or safe modes). If we made such commitments while in a spiritual place, then they hold the highest truth, purpose, and value; even if we cannot currently see or remember this because of negative emotions, defenses, or other material world distractions. If we suddenly find ourselves distressed or uncomfortable while endeavoring to follow through with such things, then the spiritual solution is to follow these emotional prompts to what they are really pointing to, and then make the needed adjustments in our lives in order to remedy the real problem; rather than running away from it. If we simply run away from something, then we will not learn the lesson or benefit from the experience; and we, and those others who may have been affected by our choices; are destined to repeat the process at some future time. The higher the state we are in when we make a commitment (e.g. spiritual, safe, or survival mode), and the higher the focus of the agreement (e.g. spiritual or material); the more real and relevant the commitment will be to our life and the lives of those involved in it.
Building a Case
When we trigger into Survival Mode, especially if we have trauma in our past, we may, without realizing it, build a case in our minds in order to justify fighting against or running away from someone. For example, if we were abused or controlled in the past, and if we are triggered into Survival Mode by guilt or fear, then we may immediately begin seeing someone very differently than we ever have before, and than they actually are. We will see them as some kind of threat to us, and distort our perceptions of them in order to support seeing them in this way. For instance, we may completely disregard the truth about them, and suddenly see them as controlling, threatening, or abusive; and ourselves as a victim of them in some way; when none of this is true. We may also blame them for everything that has occurred based on the commitments we have made with them, when we were equal participants in both the agreements and everything that has happened based on them. If we build such a case, and then act based on it; we may not want to face what we have done and turn it around, for a variety of reasons. We may not want to admit that we were wrong. We may not want to face the challenge we were avoiding. We may not want to deal with the emotions we were feeling. But the interesting thing is that, if we avoid it, then we are destined to continue cycling through such things until we finally deal with it. Also, if we allow ourselves to continue believing that the case we built is true, then we are adding another layer of deception, guilt, and complication to our lives, rather than removing one; and we are creating another unresolved issue that will somehow, some day need to be addressed. We are believing that something is true when it is not, in order to justify our perceived need to run away while in Survival Mode. When we do this, not only are we lying to ourselves and others, but we are strengthening lower vibrations, which will keep us trapped in negative emotional states like stress, anxiety, and depression. There may be an immediate sense of relief after removing the perceived threat from our lives (because we are in Survival Mode), but, since it was not a real threat, and since our perceptions were not based on truth; the lasting effects will be detrimental to us and all involved in our lives.
So we, and all others in our lives, will benefit more when we truthfully and responsibly follow through with the commitments we have made to others; and learn how to manage them if they are complicated or challenging. This is best accomplished from a spiritual perspective, because we are free of negative emotions and mind-based illusion. We are free to see and understand the truth. We are empowered to accept whatever the universe is prompting us to do. For example, I have made lifetime commitments, agreements, and plans with someone I love and care about; from the highest spiritual place; and I am going to follow through with them no matter what. And if they choose not to do so, or if they temporarily change their mind; then I am still going to faithfully follow through. I am going to do this because I believe in them, I believe that they were not lying when they made their agreements with me, because these agreements were made within a place of spiritual awareness, because I believe in truth, and because I trust the universe. When a relationship contains a powerful spiritual bond, and the supernatural love that flows from it; it is worth devoting our lives to; regardless of the material world views.
What do you do when faced with someone breaking their commitment to you? Have you ever done this to someone else? How do you balance various commitments when they seem to be in conflict? How do you elevate yourself to a spiritual place to gain the highest truth? What things have helped you go back to face or address things you tried to avoid or run away from?